How to Understand and Ask About Pronouns Respectfully

Why Pronouns Matter

When you meet someone for the first time, understanding and using their correct pronouns expresses respect and creates an inclusive environment. It’s a fundamental part of acknowledging their identity.

Personal Introductions

Begin by sharing your pronouns: "Hello, I'm Alex Rowan, and my pronouns are ze/zim. It's a pleasure to meet you." This gesture invites others to share theirs in turn.

Asking Someone's Pronouns

A simple "How would you prefer to be addressed?" or "May I ask what pronouns you use?" shows thoughtfulness. Ensure this inquiry is made in a private or appropriate setting to avoid putting someone on the spot.

In Group Settings

Offer your name and pronouns and encourage others to do the same. This practice allows everyone to state their pronouns without feeling singled out.

When Pronouns Are Unknown

Use they/them/theirs or the person’s name until you learn their pronouns. This approach shows respect and avoids making assumptions.

Fostering Inclusivity

By adopting these respectful practices, we help cultivate a community where every person’s identity is valued and celebrated.

Remember

Engage with others kindly, humbly, and with the best of intentions. Asking about and correctly using someone’s pronouns is more than just good manners—it’s a basic form of human respect.